Assumptions limit authenticity

Authenticity stems from accepting the shadows we hide because of the fear of not being or feeling accepted due to the idealized comparisons we create. The idea of acceptance is rooted in the notion that we don't need to look outward to know who we are, but rather look inward and understand how that can be expressed externally. It is simpler than we think, but often we find ourselves in a position where we surround ourselves (such as through social media) with things we compare ourselves to. However, this comparison arises from the void and lack created within us by insecurities and a lack of acceptance of our whole selves - the darker and lighter sides. We can step back and choose not to engage with others for comparison or the void it creates, but instead, embrace others' differences as parts of ourselves we are curious to discover. 

I realized I often compared and judged myself against others because I constantly found reasons for feeling void or lacking in who I wanted to be, and justified what I knew I could become. The person I was meant to become was held back because I feared what came with being authentic. I questioned who I was, even though I knew the answer. What ultimately moved me forward was asking myself if I was willing to be myself without shame, regret, fear, or doubt. The answer was simple, but it was easier to make excuses to stay stagnant, rather than progress and break the cycle. When I recognized that I was living with a victim mindset that limited my growth, I thought how messed up that was. If I heard a friend say that, I would look at them in disbelief. If I were treating myself like a friend and aware of this, I would follow the advice I’d give to others: get up, hold your head high, and take the step to just be yourself, regardless of what you think others might say or how they might react. That’s when I realized how much our assumptions prevent us from being our true selves. We imagine others’ reactions and responses, and adjust our behaviour accordingly, which stops us from being authentic. 

So, my question to you—just as I asked myself—is: how much are you willing to truly be yourself? And, no matter your surroundings, how willing are you to believe in who you are without letting others' voices or assumptions hold you back from being authentic? 

Z.